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The best way to feel good is to undertake some anonymous good deeds. This is where you do something without the expectation of a thank you or acknowledgement … that’s what the anonymous part is all about. The anonymous good deed is simply about giving.

The beauty of an anonymous good deed is that you may never really know its outcome, except for the fact you you will feel good about making a positive difference in the world around you.

Here are some examples:

Leave a brand new magazine in a ‘waiting room’

Top up an expired parking meter.

Pay for the person’s coffee behind you in the queue.

Start doing small anonymous deeds whenever you can. Not only will you feel great but you will put a smile on someone els’es face.  Have FUN!!!

You must use every moment to your advantage. Stop making excuses and creating blame and use the time you have each day to achieve your dreams.

1. Your circumstances are not you! Your circumstances can have a great influence over who you become, however, that does not mean they determine who you are. See past any negativity to create a positive future.

2. You control your reactions. Sometimes bad things happen that are out of your control but it is how you react to these circumstances that defines the outcome.

3. Stop blaming and making excuses. When you blame other people or your circumstances for your feelings, you give these people and those circumstances all the power. If they have the power, then you have none. You are the one in control of your life and your choices are your power.

4. Turn Someday into Today.  Using the moment means acting now, not someday. Today is the day to act and make positive choices. Someday may never come.

Start right NOW to Live The Moment.

How happy are you right now?

Most women know what makes their partners, their children, their parents happy but when it comes to an awareness about the little things in life that bring a smile to their own faces or joy and contentment to their own hearts, they often are too busy to notice.

We must become aware of those little moments when we experience pure happiness. It could be  experimenting with a new recipe, arranging a bouquet of flowers for their beauty, fragrance and color, taking an early morning walk as the sun rises or simply sitting in the sunshine and sipping on a cup of tea.

What is missing from many of our own lives is the realisation that we are already experiencing enjoyment in the lives we are living, we are just not stopping to see it, to feel it, to revel in it.

What triggers those feelings of pure delight in your daily life?

Let us each grasp that awareness this year. Let us learn how to recognise it and then fully embrace those moments of happiness that are uniquely our own.

Do you ever look back over your life and find yourself absolutely amazed at your most brilliant achievements, amazing successes, fabulous ideas and stunning results. Some of the things you have achieved, received or created seemed so surreal and yet you accomplished them and they now exist as part of who are are and where you are today.

Then when you stop and think about them, you realise that virtually all of them seemed to just materialise out of thin air, especially when you least expected them. You look back and see that most of them exceeded your greatest expectations and were so amazingly simple to generate or create.

Now, look forward, is it not so powerfully obvious that anything and everything is possible in the future!!!

How exciting to know that you can continue your journey knowing that whatever you put your mind to, is entirely possible!!

During this January holiday period, most of us will be spending countless hours with friends and relatives. But ask yourself: In the time you spend with them, are you actually present or are you distracted by television, iphones and Facebook? Is your mind wandering off to faraway places, planning your next holiday, working on business plans or off somewhere far away from the company and presence of those nearest and dearest?

Paying attention to our core relationships can be one of the hardest things to do in our world today. It can seem as though everyday is wrought with a choice between family, friends, work, finances and an endless list of to do’s.  Because the to do’s are often tied to obligations, they frequently win our attention.

We can feel when we’ve been so caught up on work that we’ve allowed our friendships and family to become a distant second in my life.  Our children talk less to us, we start numbing out with technology more and more and with our husbands, we can feel like two ships passing in the night. Our priorities get derailed and off track.  The last thing we want our family and friends to think and feel is that they’re second best in our life.  Too quickly, however, it can seem that way.  And we know many other families are struggling with this same issue.

Time is essential to fostering a relationship but attention is what makes that time worthwhile. Make your Time count by giving your Attention to those who matter most.

It’s always interesting meeting new people. It can be a real journey of discovery and amazingly refreshing looking at life through someone else’s eyes. Both personally and professionally the benefits can be incredible.

Maybe, you can be a bit shy when meeting people for the first time or it doesn’t feel comfortable for you, but the rewards should motivate you to give it a go and be open to connecting with someone new.

New connections can spiral into an amazing journey of new friendships and opportunities. There always seems to be someone who knows someone with whom you have a connection or they can connect you with someone who could help or support you in some way in either a personal way or on a professional level. In business, more often than not, networking is imperative.

Yes, sometimes you may feel shy or may just not feel like going out or attending an event, however, as in most cases, once you are there you will be so glad you DID go.

Regardless of what you’re doing and where you’re going in this vast and vibrant world, make sure that when someone invites you to pop over for a visit or to go somewhere with them, say YES!  You just don’t know where that acceptance will lead you!

So what has your year looked like? Did you achieve all you said you would? If so, congratulations…not many people do. If not, you must ask yourself honestly, why not?

Accept responsibility for your life; how you live, where you are, what you achieved. And don’t worry, as there is no such thing as an impossible goal, only an impossible time frame in which to achieve it.

Take care not to blame others – that is a path you really don’t want to go down.

Take another look at your goals – do they still excite you? Will they keep you up late and get you up early? Are they goals YOU really want, or are they goals that you think everyone else thinks you should have?

Remember to examine and reset your goals at least once each year and especially when you achieve one! Live your own life, not the life that someone else wants for you – you are fortunate enough to live in a country where this is possible. If you truly have your heart set on something, desire it passionately and are willing to take consistent action towards what you want, you can be, do or have anything at all.

No one has the power to keep you from your dreams – except you yourself. Let no one or no thing hold you back from your dreams.

Your time is now – so what are you waiting for?”

No matter how busy you are, now is the time to find some space over this coming week to reflect, think, give and plan.

This week between Christmas and New Year is the perfect time to do this.  Slow things down and spend time with the ones you love and those you care about. Give them your love, attention and affection. Take some time to talk with your partner and children about goals and dreams for the coming year. Use this as a time to recharge your batteries and to create some plans for changes you wish to make and things you wish to do in 2012.

You will find the act of reflecting, thinking, dreaming and planning, alongside your family, will be one of the most important exercises you can do that will positively impact the next 12 months.

So, take a moment to revisit your past year of achievements and defeats, your growth as well as those times of stagnation, and use it to design the next year the way you truly desire it to be.

Wishing you a week of joy and fun as you prepare for your year ahead.

What is the value of a smile?

A smile costs absolutely nothing but can give so much to so many. It enriches those who receive it, without making poorer those who give it away. It takes but a moment to give, but the memory of a smile can last a lifetime. No one is so rich or so mighty that they can get along without it, and no one is so poor that they can’t be made richer by receiving it. It creates happiness in the home, fosters goodwill in business and is the ultimate sign of great friendship. It is rest to the weary, 0ptismism to the discouraged. It is sunshine to the sad and it is nature’s best antidote for trouble.

Yet, it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed or stolen, for it is of no value to anyone until it is given away. Some people are too tired to give you a smile, so, give them one of yours, as there is an age old saying that goes… “For none needs a smile as much as he who has no more to give”.